when life becomes a dread

a friend told me that he wants to give up everything..
because life is no longer under his control.
he is controlled by his friends, family, gf and studies.
he doesn't feel the happiness anymore.

the only time he feels happy is when he's alone.
that's the only time no outside factors can harm him.
harm u say...cos life is no longer his but it belongs to others.

he doesn't believe in saying no to others...
his life is always helping others around him..
much to the degree that he forsakes himself..
to him...you will not be able to do what you want in life..
because that'll cause others to be disappointed.

but i think he doesn't realise this..
having a life that he is happy with doesn't make the others any sadder..
the others will be happy for u juz for the fact that u r happy..
still there are others who couldn't care less..
because their lives go on the same.

it is true that to give would entails a take..
but the giving cannot be coming from the same person..
if that's the case..whatever will happen to the rest?
and what is going to happen to the one who always gives?

the giver becomes the dreaded..
because he no longer lives a life for himself but for others.
he no longer chooses what he likes but what others like.
this is a life no longer of a human.
he'll see life at the deepest trench man ever dug

but life is suppose to be beautiful
to give up everything would be a lose lose situation
because u gave up even the beautiful part of life

to say to put self before others may be selfish..
but come to think of it..
there should be a balance somewhere or another..
i'm sure others wouldn't want to see u live a life like this as well..

sometimes freedom can be chosen..
u juz have to make an effort.
consequences may be drastic
but behind every ending..
there will always entail a beginning.