victory~~!!!!

i used to enjoy teaching this tutee of mine, until i realised something which is intrinsically characteristic in her family.

i thought she was quite a sad case in the beginning...parents pressurizing her to study and sort...and at her age feeling stupid and pathetic just because the rest of her sisters are doing better than her. after a month of visits, i started to see that there was more to that than the innocent and harmless ten-year-old girl.

i started to dread tuitioning her. it was pressurizing juz to go to her house and teach and i wasn't sure why. at first i thought it was the parents having high expectations on me...then the thought dawn on me. the girl has no respect for me at all!! hai... she yaks and yaks throughout the lesson and i can't even get things done. after much persistence for her to hurry up...she juz looks at me and smirks and continue her yak. everything to her is juz fun. she can tell me she doesn't want to do corrections too!

what about the parents? they come in once in a while to ask me about her progress. i just told them she's careless and that she needs to build up her english language. there the father comes telling me how i should do...monitor her reading....show her the books to read...how i should teach blahblahblah. and the mom was telling me you should put in more effort...
how to not feel pressurize?

two incidents which made me got pek cek:
incident 1
dad: so what do you think of her progress? can make it?
zee: she's smart by nature....but she's careless...and her language structure not as strong...so need to buck up
dad: so how u think can improve?
zee: read...ask her to read more books.
dad: so why didn't u ask her to read more books? maybe u can go lib help her borrow some books...then make her read? a reading schedule maybe?
zee: <$%^^&* > i've already asked her to read...and i've chosen a book from YOUR library...she keeps complaining i give her so many hw...and she doesn't have time to read... what i would suggest is you monitor her...cos i'll only be here 3 hrs a week...better right? no matter how much i push she don't budge i can't do anything...

incident 2
mom: how's her progress?
zee: ok not bad...just her language.
mom: you must put in more effort you know..
zee: <$%^&&*> huh? i've asked her to do stuffs and she doesn't...there's nothing i can do...she doesn't seem to have the motivation to start...always very slow and all...
mom: then it's ur job to make her do it
zee: <@#@#$%^%^> er...let's juz put it this way...she simply doesn't respect me at all...it's difficult for me to teach (and i've already told her b4 of the unfinished hw and the mom didn't seem to react much to that!)
mom: girl ar...if u don't do well huh...daddy will punish u one
kathleen: punish the teacher la...y punish me
zee: (super pek cek) i can only do as much as i can...the rest is up to her and u

incident 3
mom: hey...u slim down alot recently...u on diet huh?
zee: no lei...think i've grown bigger..
mom: no lar...i think u really slim down... dieting right?
zee: no la...grown fatter
mom: haa...ok la...u continue with ur teaching.
mom walks off and come back seconds later
mom: btw ar...u're suppose to say thank you.
zee: "ha ha ha"

gross..was super pek cek after the last incident...parents always make me feel i'm not good enough...like i'm a super despo person who die die must have this tuition job...worse thing is...the parents always tell me how bz they are and employing a tutor is cheaper blahblahblah...and the kid has come to think that anybody who's poor would not have a tutor...gross..

was dreading going tuition today...cos the mom always last min change the shedule...there kathleen was again...wasting time by yakking n yakking...i swear it takes a full five mins for her to even get ready her pen to write...and another five min to flip the page...gross
there she was getting on my nerves...when she said this: i EXPECT you to teach me blahblah today"

that was when i blew my top and i said:" what do u mean you expect me to do this? how can i continue when u r so slow? if u still continue expecting me to do this or that....i'd rather not teach! do you know you are the rudest girl i've ever taught? you simply have no respect for your teachers...do you use the word 'expect' on your parents? i don't think so...so DO NOT use this word one me...and please show me respect from now on. I can play with you and talk to you...but when i am teaching...i expect u to shut up and do your work!

haa...i won...the lesson went on smoothly and she totally shut up!!

victory never taste so good...